Ever find yourself wanting something to change, but feeling a sense of inertia, unable to move forward? Business coach, speaker and author Libby Gill shares tips and strategies for breaking through limiting beliefs and moving towards one’s goals in her book, You Unstuck.
Gill walks the reader through her CSE process–Clarify, Simplify, and Execute. You begin by clarifying the end result–what you want to happen and what it would look like. For example, you may want to lose weight. What would like look like if you weighed less? You may have a list that looks similar to this:
- I will be able to wear a lot more of the clothes in my closet.
- I will feel good about myself when I look in the mirror.
- I will be grateful for taking steps to improve my health.
- I won’t waste anymore time feeling self-conscious about my size.
The next step is to think about the most direct route to reach your vision. What has worked for you in the past? How have others met this goal for themselves?
In the execute stage, you consider the specific actions you need to take to move forward. If you don’t know all the steps involved, just list the next step you can take. When you break down the execute stage into tiny steps, it is much easier to accomplish a goal. In the weight loss example, perhaps the next step is checking out the closest location of a weight loss center.
Gill suggests keeping a positive attitude throughout the process, as she says that hope is the jet fuel for this life’s journey.
Many times fear is at the root of the inertia. One way to break the bonds of fear is to restate the fear in the positive.
Fear: I’m afraid to go into business for myself.
Flipped around: I’d love to start my own bakery.
Gill says when we focus on the fear, we are less able to use the parts of our brains necessary for innovation.
To turn this situation around, she suggests replacing negative self chatter with positive self talk:
- I can handle this.
- I release and let go.
- I’m grateful for what I am learning.
The book also addresses stress, how to become more comfortable with risk, and getting unstuck with relationships, money, health, and your career.
What is your go-to strategy when you’re feeling stuck?